Blessings,
Courageous Ones!
Can you
feel the transformation in the air?
Here, the air is fairly crackling with the energies of change and
growth.
Along with
my Dark Moon students and Sisters, I am still deep within the exploration of my
Shadow-Self. The unexpectedly chilly Bay
Area weather has assisted me in going into that dark place, that inner realm,
the place of the Hermit. Here inside, is
it warm, sometimes hot! This is tricky,
difficult work and I sometimes feel the need to surface, thanking those parts
of myself that no longer fit, gently allowing the release and surrender that is
needed.
At our
last class, I shared the idea that nobody is coming to save us. What does this mean? So many of us who are now women were unconsciously
raised to believe (in the heterosexual myth) that if we waited, our prince—or
someone, or something--was going to come and rescue us. That knight in shining armor would arrive on
a white steed to bear us away from our wretched lives and give us everything we
ever wanted or needed. And we would live
happily ever after. Whether or not we
are aware of it, this Princess Complex haunts us.
Even more
prevalent than I remember it being as a child, this Princess Complex is
nurtured. Gowns, crowns, scepters, wands,
princess parties, it goes on and on. There
is absolutely nothing wrong with our girls playing dress-up and creating
fantasy worlds—this type of free, unstructured, unscripted play should
certainly be encouraged. But when a girl
believes in the fairy tale that someday “he” will come to whisk her away and
make everything okay, then we are raising girls that will stay girls. We unwittingly raise generations of women who
will remain children. We unintentionally
create women without the ability or knowledge of how to rely on themselves. Here are women who will look outside of
themselves for the answers, a prince, a father-figure, a savior…anyone and
anything but looking within to themselves. Women without the knowledge that, “if
that which you seek you find not within yourself, you will never find it without.” Many of us secretly think that if we wait
long enough, someone or something will show up to save us.
Accepting
that no one is coming to save me places responsibility upon me take responsibility
for my own self. No one can walk my path
for me! Yes, there are those who may walk
next to me for a time, those who may sometimes hold my hand, and those who have
previously walked where I am now walking, but I am truly the only one who can
travel this road. I am the only one who
can do my Shadow work. I am the only one
who can change my perceptions, thoughts, feelings. I am the only one who can take responsibility
for my happiness and my life.
This year
feels big to me. I have set new
intentions and have committed to following my dreams in an even bigger way than
I ever have before. I search for what is
my truth now, in the present moment, and discard those things that may once
have been truth for me, but no longer serve.
This is a time for courage, and allowing bravery to overcome fear.
As Debbie
Ford asks in her book, The Secret of the
Shadow: “If there was no hope of a
miracle happening, what changes would you make in your life today?” I spend a lot of time contemplating this. What changes would I make? What changes am I making? In which parts of my life am waiting around
for someone to step in to save me? What changes would you make, Courageous One?
Blessed
be,
Lady
Jesamyn Angelica
HP,
Sisterhood of the Moon
