Thursday, November 1, 2012

The Role of the Pastoral Counselor in Neopaganism



The Blessings of our Benevolent Ancestors upon you, Courageous Ones!

Today I continue my exploration of Ethics.  The unit I have just completed deals with the different aspects of the role of the Neopagan Pastoral Counselor.  Onward!

Dr. Katie MacDowell, in her book Ethics & Professional Practice for Neopagan Clergy, writes on page 47:

The role of the Neopagan Pastor involves three skill areas merged together:  mentor, pedagogical expert, and counselor.  Within the role of spiritual mentor, the pastor is able to facilitate spiritual growth of each member of the community.  As an expert in pedagogy, the pastor is able to teach the necessary religious skills required for each member to initiate into their tradition and to become full participants within its ritual life.  And finally, as a counselor, the pastor is able to provide supportive counseling interventions to help members in their community cope with life stressors; further the pastor is able to frame counseling interventions within the theological context.

Wow, this was a long and very intense unit.  I had never taken the time to break down the different parts of my role as High Priestess before reading this chapter.  While going over this writing several times, I began to see where my current skillset lies, and the places where I need to delve deeper. I am most comfortable and skilled as a Pastor in pedagogy, so I will address the other two roles first.

Dr. MacDowell writes on page 48:

The spiritual mentor is an expert in how individuals develop their religious and spiritual identities and come to commit themselves to a faith or even break away from that faith.  Because the mentor understands the stages of religious development that individuals move through and how their internal view of their religion influences this development, the mentor is able to foster that individual’s spiritual growth.

Since I have no formal seminary training and was, in essence, taught and mentored while I “learned on the job,” I was not previously familiar with the work Peek, Rambo, or Fowler that Dr. MacDowell discusses in depth in this chapter.  The development and stages of spirituality and religious conversion is something I never spent any intentional time thinking about!  I admit to first finding this section somewhat daunting, and bit of a stretch for me to truly grasp.  After reading it several times, I think I understand the basic elements of this topic.

When I think of myself in the role of a Spiritual Mentor, I see that I am most accomplished at knowing, as Dr. MacDowell writes:

     (a)  How and why people come to the Neopagan path, particularly to the tradition they are working in;
     (b)  How individuals grow along this path; and
     (c)  How to mentor (facilitate) their growth on this path.

My competence in this realm comes first from my own personal experience (how I came to this Path, have grown along it, and how I have been mentored and facilitated, and how I continue to be mentored and facilitated), and secondly through “doing” (without even, in the past, truly contemplating or understanding what exactly I was “doing”) first as an apprentice Priestess, then as a Priestess in a community, and finally as High Priestess within my own community.

I can see that further exploration of how people, women especially, find and own their religious identity would be greatly beneficial to my growth as a Spiritual Mentor.

Next, I move to the Pastoral Counselor.  Dr. MacDowell defines this, on page 77:

Neopagan Pastoral Counseling is known as supportive counseling and is a relationship designed to help individuals adjust to the challenges we all face or could face in our lives through the framing of these events within the symbols, stories, and meanings of the Neopagan faith.  In this fashion, the Neopagan counselor situates the issues the individual is experiencing within the context of Neopagan models of meaning and development.  It may include rituals to promote healing or a greater connection of the divine; and it may also include assigning reading material to help foster self-help and growth.

As High Priestess of the Sisterhood of the Moon, I often take on the role of a Pastoral Counselor.  In almost every situation, however, this is done casually instead of formally.  A woman may ask me a question, or share her situation, and ask for my thoughts or advice before or after a ritual.  Or, more commonly, this occurs in a group setting and in a group conversation after ritual when we are feasting, or on our community chat list.  I do put forward that I am available for one-on-one counseling and consultations, but have seldom been taken up on this offer. I find myself wishing that more women would come to me as a Pastoral Counselor in a more formal setting, but have not discovered how to manifest this yet.

I feel that I am skilled with all of the “essential elements” Dr. MacDowell shared:  Respect and empowerment, Empathy, Genuineness, and Trust, but that I can certainly be better with Unconditional Positive Regard.  The work I have done with Non-Violent Communication in the past often serves me well in this capacity, but there is definitely room for more understanding and growth here.

Finally, the Pedagogy Expert, as Dr. MacDowell defines on page 70:

The pedagogy expert…is all about teaching concepts and central tenets of the specific Neopagan faith.  This is not about deepening spiritual awareness as it is about the pragmatic aspect of learning the parameters of the tradition.  There are two primary strategies that Neopagan pastor will manifest this element of the role:  As a grader and feedback provider…[and] As the primary developer of lessons and direct educator.

Pedagogy, or teaching, is one of my favorite roles.  I am naturally inclined towards this realm, and I believe it can be partially attributed to growing up with so many teachers in my family!  It runs in my blood naturally, but there is a nurture element there as well.  Teaching about my Tradition is one of my absolute favorite things to do in this lifetime, and it brings such joy to my life.  I also feel that every time I teach a formal class, I learn just as much as my students, if not more.  I am always looking to further hone these skills.

How do you manifest these roles in your life as a Pastoral Counselor?  I invite you to share your explorations around this topic!

Blessed be,
Lady Jesamyn Angelica
High Priestess, Sisterhood of the Moon

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